Losing Myself
So I recently read the book "Why Men Love Bitches" and I have to say it blew my mind. This book always seemed like a joke to me whenever I would see it online or in stores. But it is far from that and I would recommend it to anyone walking down the street. Anyone who wants to gain more confidence in any area of their life. This book isn't about try to impress a man but more about impressing your self.
So to get to the point, I have been in the dating world for 10 years now and I can safely say I have been very unsuccessful in my attempts to find someone to share my life with. I have only had one serious long term relationship and multiple failed attempts and horrible dates I would rather forget. Looking back I can safely say that my neediness was the downfall of everyone of my attempts at forever. If you asked me at the time though I was acting like the perfect potential girlfriend. I had no idea I was selling myself short. I thought I loved myself and I was an independent women who didn't need anyone and was self reliant. Seeing things clearly now I realize I was crying for attention. I had no boundaries and was so starved for attention I would go against my morals and do whatever a guy asked of me. I'm excited to write more posts about all my failed attempts at love hoping to inspire you to not do the same.
I bet your asking what the magic recipe is then to get the man of your dreams. Its as simple as creating a fulfilling life with friends, family, and hobbies and owning it. Anytime I fell for a guy or made plans for a date I always let them take the lead. I would always make myself available anytime day or night. All the hard work I put in to all other aspects of my life faded away so I could make sure I was there when he needed me to be. If someone i was interested in did this for me I can safely say that my attraction would completely drop because they wouldn't be the person i fell for in the first place.
Going forward I am promising to stay true to myself and not lose any of my magic. The best quote I can think of to emphasize this post says, “Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind”
So to get to the point, I have been in the dating world for 10 years now and I can safely say I have been very unsuccessful in my attempts to find someone to share my life with. I have only had one serious long term relationship and multiple failed attempts and horrible dates I would rather forget. Looking back I can safely say that my neediness was the downfall of everyone of my attempts at forever. If you asked me at the time though I was acting like the perfect potential girlfriend. I had no idea I was selling myself short. I thought I loved myself and I was an independent women who didn't need anyone and was self reliant. Seeing things clearly now I realize I was crying for attention. I had no boundaries and was so starved for attention I would go against my morals and do whatever a guy asked of me. I'm excited to write more posts about all my failed attempts at love hoping to inspire you to not do the same.
I bet your asking what the magic recipe is then to get the man of your dreams. Its as simple as creating a fulfilling life with friends, family, and hobbies and owning it. Anytime I fell for a guy or made plans for a date I always let them take the lead. I would always make myself available anytime day or night. All the hard work I put in to all other aspects of my life faded away so I could make sure I was there when he needed me to be. If someone i was interested in did this for me I can safely say that my attraction would completely drop because they wouldn't be the person i fell for in the first place.
Going forward I am promising to stay true to myself and not lose any of my magic. The best quote I can think of to emphasize this post says, “Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind”
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